I think the key is pleasure with non attachment. If somebody took the object or source of pleasure away from you tommorow or said that you could never do it again, would you be upset. Thats where the fear and aggresion comes from.. from the need to control and not letting go. What would pleasure be, had it not a name? It just would simply be, wouldn't it? Pleasure is created in the mind, it is based on the experience of past. It is a sensation. In order to be-come non attached (in our natural state) to the creations of the mind we must dig deep to the root of it all. We can not become detached from this yet struggle with detachment from that. When we experience the life-force of attachment it completely disintegrates, as we've come to the root of understanding. Much as I wrote about fear .. we can cut away at the branches of the tree of fear but the root still remains. I take with me this wise thought, Steve, as it relates to my day, today. It has been a sad day for me, but also a day of rejoicing. A day to experience within the experience total and complete surrender to the Universe. To acknowledge and observe such sadness but be free from any attachments to the object of this sadness. It was never mine to begin with, so I haven't lost anything. Yet I was blessed with this wonderful, nurturing gift and for that I smile the grandest smile I ever did smile. Thank you Cyber-Steve for sharing with me your thoughts. I enjoyed sharing them with you :-)