Contemplation: Human Relationships

I am becoming increasingly aware that all our human relationships are seated on pleasure. Concurrent to pleasure of course it's playmate, pain. Pleasure being an output of thought, appears to be sought out by the recordings of the mind. Everything we desire arises from past, does it not? I consumed a wonderful meal yesterday and my mind remembers [records] this delicious meal and wants it again today. I had a prodigious experience during meditation this morning and my mind records that pleasurable feeling and seeks to experience it again. That experience gave me considerable delight and that is pleasure. You intimidated me and abused me and lied to me and took advantage of me. These memories remain, the hurts and annoyances, the sharp words. This is the memory [knowledge] I have about you, recorded in the cells of the memory. So my relationship with you is rooted in the past. Relationships embedded in the past brings about disorder. So I suppose the question is, how is the mind not to record at the instant of insult or praise so that it does not act with the knowledge of the past, therefore bringing disorder to the relationship? How to live a life in relationship in which the mind has never been hurt. A mind that does not get hurt is innocent. A mind that is innocent is incapable of being hurt and it will not hurt another. This is love.